Losing a grandparent is often a child’s first encounter with grief. At Andrew Kennedy Funeral Directors, we understand the importance of providing compassionate support to children during this challenging time. We offer both traditional and personalised funeral services that respect all cultural and religious needs, ensuring that every family receives the support that reflects their values and beliefs. This article offers practical advice and resources on how to help children navigate the grief of losing a grandparent, reinforcing the support with recommended literature specifically aimed at young mourners.

Open Communication

One of the first steps in aiding children through grief is encouraging open communication. It’s important to explain death in a way that is comprehensible for their age, using simple and honest language and avoiding euphemisms that can lead to confusion. Let children know that it’s normal to feel sad, confused, or even angry, and that expressing these feelings is a healthy part of grieving.

Creating Memories and Personal Touches

Creating a physical memorial like a scrapbook or a memory box can help children visualise and cherish their memories. Engaging in such activities allows them to process their feelings and provides a tangible connection to their grandparent. Personal touches in the funeral service, such as a favourite song or a reading that was loved by the grandparent, can also help personalise the experience and make the service more meaningful.

Support Through Literature

Books can be a significant resource in helping children cope with grief. Here are several thoughtful selections:

• “The Invisible String” by Patrice Karst – Explains that we remain connected to our loved ones through an invisible string of love.
• “The Memory Box: A Book About Grief” by Joanna Rowland – Encourages children to create a memory box to store mementos and memories.
• “When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death” by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown – Provides clear explanations about death and grieving.
• “I Miss You: A First Look at Death” by Pat Thomas – Helps children understand what death means and why it happens.
• “Water Bugs and Dragonflies: Explaining Death to Young Children” by Doris Stickney – Uses the analogy of a water bug’s transformation to explain death and the afterlife.
• “Goodbye Mog” by Judith Kerr – Deals with the death of a pet, reflecting on loss in a way that children can relate to.
• “Grandad’s Island” by Benji Davies – Offers a story about loss that is both heartwarming and comforting.

At Andrew Kennedy Funeral Directors, we are dedicated to supporting families through all aspects of grief, particularly when it involves the sensitive hearts of children. By offering a blend of professional guidance, personalised funeral services, and resources like children’s books on grief, we help families honour their loved ones while providing the tools needed for healing. Our commitment ensures that the memory of the grandparent is cherished and that the children receive the understanding and care they need during such pivotal moments.